About me

Hi, I’m Filip Malinowski, coach for communication & self-development working in Berlin on the basis of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). 

In over fifteen years of training and self-awareness, I have learned different approaches to making my own life fuller, more authentic and simply much happier. I’ve learned that the elements of NVC, a nonjudgmental connection to the now, to our feelings and needs, allow me to simply go into every area of my life and create healing relationships with reality and others.

But that wasn’t always the case. Mainly because I had lost access to my anger and fear as a child due to a family traumatized by the Second World War in Poland. In my rather loving family, there was unfortunately no room for authentic feelings and clearly stated needs – everyone was stuck in roles and expectations. Because I lacked emotional access, I was paralysed by inner conflicts and couldn’t clearly recognize my needs. After many therapies that seemed to have little effect, I discovered NVC and suddenly had a tool with which I could rediscover my feelings and finally see my needs behind them! I began to defend myself effectively and to say „yes“ to what I want and what I like. After many intensive processes and courses with NVC, I feel like a new person who moves with ease and clarity in my relationships and shapes life joyfully. I can help you to follow this path from my experience.

What makes my coaching special: I combine „inner-child-work“, working with „inner parts“, somatics into the work with NVC and thus create a particularly strong all-round package for your progress.

Access to feelings and needs: I support you in recognizing your needs by exploring the underlying feelings through concrete situations. In doing so, I convey the basics of NVC: attention, personal responsibility, transparency, curiosity, vulnerability, acceptance and empathetic appreciation.

Communication: How can you authentically articulate what is going on inside you, what you need, and at the same time be in harmonious connection with others? Together we practice an emotional language that expresses your needs and boundaries authentically.  

Strategies: We look at the way you pursue your needs and understand your behavior patterns. We transform old destructive patterns in new aware strategies to enhance the quality of yor life.

Influences: If you wish, we can also look at your past to see what is affecting your relationships and communication. We uncover the repressed feelings and needs from your past. Together we create corrective experiences.

My style: In my coaching sessions I listen to you carefully and create a safe-space, so you can really be yourself. I’ll offer interpretations, ask questions, structure your experience, being your empathetic companion on your inner journey.

Openness, curiosity, presence, appreciation and a relationship at eye level characterize my sessions I often like to add some lightness and humor to.